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Thoughts on Romance and Sex in an Airport

2012-04-17 · John · watch on YouTube · Everyday life · conversation qa

In a Question Tuesday filmed in the Indianapolis airport, John gives rapid answers to Nerdfighters' questions on love and sex: use your words, people who take offence at 'no' are asshats, sexual pasts and premarital sex are not wrong, gay kissing is not shameful, and no one who ignores your 'no' loves you.

What is said

00:00:11 — Rapid answers on dating and sex: virginity, 'use your words', saying no, number of partners, 'the one', crushes, 'I love you', the Yeti, Othello

  • ★★ Asked when it is okay to lose your virginity, John says 34-year-old men vlogging in airports should not decide when other people have sex. (playful) (hedged) — 00:00:11
  • ★★★ John's advice to someone unsure whether a crush likes them back is what he tells his son a child of the brothers several times a day: use your words and just talk to the person. — 00:00:18 > «Use your words!»
  • ★★ Asked how to say no to sex without offending a partner, John uses a Venn diagram to show that people who take offence at a no are asshats. (playful) — 00:00:41 · Karen Kavett
  • ★★★ John says the number of people someone has slept with does not matter, and it bothers him that women are held to a different standard on this than men. — 00:00:52
  • ★★ John doesn't think there is one 'one'. (hedged) — 00:01:11
  • ★ On when it is too soon to say 'I love you', John advises remembering that you can't un-ring that bell. — 00:01:21
  • ★★ John says that when he first saw the Yeti she was in eighth grade, and he did not think he was going to marry her. — 00:01:38 · Sarah Urist Green

00:01:51 — Premarital sex, same-sex marriage laws, the secret of marriage, gay kissing and shame about sexuality

  • ★★★ John says there is nothing inherently wrong with premarital sex. — 00:01:51
  • ★★★ John says that with gay marriage legal in some states but not others, it is ridiculous to claim gay people can have morally justifiable sex in Vermont but not Mississippi. — 00:01:56
  • ★★ John says he does not see it as his job to tell people whom to have sex with or under what circumstances. — 00:02:07
  • ★★★ John says the secret to a successful marriage is mutual generosity, and it helps if you like the same television programmes. — 00:02:22
  • ★★★ Asked whether gay kissing is wrong, John says of course not: if two people want to kiss it is awesome, and no one should be ashamed of their sexuality. — 00:02:26

00:02:46 — Llama copulation, a man who won't take no, never kissed in college, hickeys, asking if someone is gay

  • ★ John says llama sex lasts about two hours because male llamas experience 'dribble ejaculation'. (playful) — 00:02:46
  • ★★★ If someone says he loves you but won't take no for an answer, John says he doesn't love you; he doesn't respect your right to choose your own romantic partners. — 00:02:55
  • ★★ John says never having kissed anyone in college is not weird, citing that this was the most thumbed-up question of the hundreds he got on Facebook. — 00:03:02 · Facebook

Humor (significant)

  • A shy viewer doesn't know how to approach a girl at school; John tells the viewer to just ask her using words. — 00:00:30 > «You're not an Avox!»
  • Asked his 'stand' on birth control pills, John takes the question literally. — 00:00:38 > «I try not to stand on birth control pills at all; I think it might decrease their effectiveness.»
  • To show how odd it is to care about sexual partners' pasts, John imagines his breakfast cereal complaining. — 00:00:59 > «"I'm the 48th cereal you've tried eating, I don't feel special!"»
  • Asked about 'an Othello kind of love', John spells out what happens in the play, then gives his deadpan verdict. — 00:01:47 > «I'm opposed to it.»

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