How should people cope with being bullied?

Hank said in 2011 that bullying is about the people doing it, and that the job is to survive it because it will end. John said in 2013 that his bullies acted from their own fear and pain, that others' kindness got him through, and that revenge is not the way forward.

Axis: survive it; it is about the bully ... others' kindness and refusal to tolerate it

Positions by date: 2 records in 2 videos. One position from each speaker here, so no change can be shown.

John

date	how	position	video
2013-11-19	first on record	John's position: his bullies were kids with their own fear and pain, which does not justify it but shows it was not about him or his value; he got through because people were kind and would not stand for bullying — we decide together what is acceptable; revenge is not the way forward; the only way out is through.	On Middle School Misery 00:01:31

Hank

date	how	position	video
2011-07-25	first on record	Hank's position: asked at LeakyCon how he dealt with bullying, he says he only cried and survived it; his two tips: it is about the people doing it, not you, and your job is not to deal with it but to survive it, because it will end and get better.	I Am Not a P#$$Y - this video contains mild swear words. 00:03:18