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How to Get Girls to Like You

2009-03-10 · Q&A · John · 3:07 · watch on YouTube

Topic: Everyday life (also: Nerdfighteria) · mode: Q&A & conversation · tags: recurring series, fundraising ask, self promotion, community lore

Short on time before his Paper Towns screenplay draft is due, John answers a few viewer questions, chiefly advising a viewer on getting nerd girls to like him: don't be needy or creepy, and treat girls as people.

What is said

The parts of the video and what is said in each (★ — how much it matters to the video).

00:00:00 — Screenplay deadline means no Question Tuesday record; Amsterdam event details; Second Story fundraiser reminder

  • ★★ John says his first draft of the Paper Towns screenplay is due in three days, so he lacks time to break the Question Tuesday world record. — 00:00:00 · Paper Towns, Question Tuesday
  • ★★ John's event in Amsterdam is on Thursday, March 19, at 7 p.m. at De Jaren; everyone in and around Amsterdam should come. — 00:00:18 · Amsterdam
  • ★★ John reminds viewers he is doing a fundraiser this Friday (13 March 2009) for The Second Story, a charity in Indianapolis: $5 for students, $8 otherwise. — 00:00:32 · Indianapolis

00:00:40 — How do I get nerd girls to like me? Asking Willy; become a puppy

  • ★ Asked how to get nerd girls to like you, John jokes that girls love his puppy Willy, so his first advice is to become a puppy (or a kitten or sneezy panda). (joke) — 00:01:18 · Willy

00:01:29 — Real advice: don't be creepy or needy; the girl warning system; no one fills the holes inside you; Chinese finger cuffs; treat girls like people

  • ★★★ Having been dumped often, John says girls dislike creepy, stalkery behaviour; guys are taught not to be needy, so when allowed to be vulnerable the need floods out. — 00:01:29
  • ★★★ John theorises girls (not named Bella) have a warning system against obsessive guys, which is helpful because no girl or other person will ever fill the holes inside you. (hedged) — 00:01:52
  • ★★ John compares it to Chinese finger cuffs: instead of being panicked and overeager, just relax. — 00:02:13
  • ★★★ John advises seeing girls as people rather than pathways to kissing or salvation; treated like people, they are much more likely to like you. — 00:02:22

00:02:40 — Why John doesn't sing; new favourite YouTubers; Peeps tally and donation ask; sign-off

  • ★ Asked why he never sings, John says at the end of 2007 he gave nerdfighters the gift of him not singing anymore. (playful) — 00:02:40 · Song Wednesday, Nerdfighteria
  • ★★ John names Ransriggs and Wheezy Waiter as recent favourite new YouTubers, linked in the sidebar. — 00:02:51 · Craig Benzine
  • ★★ John says he is up to 100 Peeps so far, which is nothing, and asks viewers to keep donating. — 00:02:55 · Peeps

Humor (significant)

  • John interviews his puppy Willy on why girls love him, suggesting he's the silent, shy, aloof type. — 00:01:13

    “The silent, shy, aloof, type doesn't lick me in the mouth when I'm video blogging!”

  • Girls like Willy because he is a puppy. — 00:01:22

    “my first piece of advise about getting girls to like you: become a puppy.”

  • John advises treating girls like people. — 00:02:32

    “although admittedly people who like fart jokes somewhat less than the rest of your friends,”

  • Asked why he never sings while Hank has Song Wednesday. — 00:02:46

    “that gift was me not singing anymore.”

Threads in this video

Where the stories that moved here went next

Mentioned

People: Craig Benzine · Ransom Riggs

Works: Paper Towns

Organizations: Second Story

Rituals: Question Tuesday · Song Wednesday

Places: Amsterdam · Café de Jaren · Indianapolis · Netherlands

Characters: Bella Swan

Products: Peeps

animal: Willy

Only in the description or credits: imagine others complexly

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