Love and Romance Questions ANSWERED

2009-07-28 · Q&A · John, Sarah Urist Green · 3:59 · watch on YouTube

Topic: Everyday life · mode: Q&A & conversation · tags: recurring series, community lore, guest or collab

On Question Tuesday John gives mostly comic answers to Nerdfighters' love and romance questions, with a few sincere points: everyone fears rejection, just ask, and guys are people too; Sarah weighs in on yes/no notes.

What is said

The parts of the video and what is said in each (★ — how much it matters to the video).

00:00:00 — Greeting; Question Tuesday on love and romance

• This part replays Dec 18th: The Project for Awesome and Question Tuesday!!! (2007-12-18); what is said here is covered on that page: 1 statement.

00:00:15 — Rejection, porpoise/propose, nerdy girls, first kisses, clingy boys, nerdfighter-like breakups

• ★★★ John says everyone is afraid of rejection; others just don't seem so because you are not living inside their thoughts. — 00:00:17
• ★★★ John advises asking a boyfriend about marriage and talking it over, calling it weird that culture thrusts marriage on women: boys deliberate for months, girls get seconds to answer. (playful) — 00:00:55
• ★ Asked where the nerdy girls are, John jokes that they are right here, watching the video. (joke) — 00:01:13
• ★★ John says an ordinary first kiss is no big deal, but for a kiss with tongue his one piece of advice is that the tongue should not lead. (playful) — 00:01:30

00:02:26 — Yes/no notes: Sarah calls them the wimp's way

• ★★ Sarah Urist Green: Sarah says asking someone out with a check-yes-or-no note has never been cool and is the wimp's way; she recommends asking them. — 00:02:34 · Sarah Urist Green

00:02:53 — Beauty queens, shyness around guys, internerdial dating, smart girls, text breakups, just ask

• ★★★ John tells a nearly 18-year-old who has never dated that this is not weird, and that guys are people in exactly the same way girls are. — 00:03:10
• ★★★ John says guys who don't like girls smarter than them are exactly the guys you don't want to date. (playful) — 00:03:32
• ★ John says breaking up over text message is bad. — 00:03:41
• ★★ To overcome shyness about asking a boy out, John says just ask: call him now, before the video ends, and say John Green told you to. (playful) — 00:03:45

00:03:56 — Sign-off

Humor (significant)

• Reading a question about a boyfriend who is 'about to porpoise', John lists the signs of turning into a porpoise. — 00:00:26

  “He may also start to look increasingly less human and more dolphin shaped,”

• Advising against leading with the tongue, John starts from the Marines' 'first to fight'. — 00:02:01

  “The tongue should not be first to kiss.”

• Asked what it is called when only one partner is a nerdfighter, John coins a term. — 00:03:23

  “internerdial dating.”

• Asked whether guys really dislike girls smarter than them, John describes a Venn diagram. — 00:03:32

  “is a circle.”

Threads in this video

• restate · Should people follow gender norms? — John calls it weird that culture thrusts marriage on women, with men deciding for months and women answering in seconds. (00:00:55)
• restate · What makes a good romantic relationship or friendship? — John says guys who don't like smart girls are the guys you don't want to date. (00:03:32)
• callback · John's Venn diagram jokes (2007) — John says guys who don't like girls smarter than them are exactly the guys you don't want to date. (00:03:32)

Mentioned

Central: Question Tuesday

Also: gender role · nerdfighterlike (coinage) · Sarah Urist Green · United States Marine Corps · United States Navy SEALs

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