Should people follow gender norms?
Since 2007 John has argued that people who don't fit gender expectations shouldn't be mocked, objecting to double standards for women and saying in 2014 that he loves wearing makeup. Hank, who calls himself a less guyish kind of guy, criticised in 2014 a culture that values women for their beauty.
Axis: norms are constructions to ignore ... norms are natural or worth keeping
Positions by date: 7 records in 7 videos. The position did not change in these records.
John
| date | how | position | video |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2007-09-18 | first on record | John argues gender is constructed dichotomously from early childhood and that people who don't fit gender expectations should not be laughed at for being different. | September 18: In Defense of Chris Crocker 00:03:32 |
| 2009-02-24 | restate | John rejects cultural constructions that young women should be stupid, awkward and eyelid-fluttery, arguing everyone's brains gesture and everyone feels awkward. | How to Make Guys Like You 00:02:03 |
| 2012-04-17 | restate | John objects that women are held to a different standard than men about how many people they have slept with. | Thoughts on Romance and Sex in an Airport 00:00:52 |
| 2014-07-01 | restate | John, a man, says he loves wearing makeup, and that the idea that women wear makeup for men reflects a sick, deep part of the patriarchy. | Why I Love Makeup 00:01:31 |
Hank
| date | how | position | video |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2011-10-12 | first on record | Hank calls himself 'kind of effeminate', 'a less guyish kind of guy', and says the complexity of orientation makes a mess of assumptions about what gender roles mean about people. | Coming Out and Sperm Spikes 00:02:52 |
| 2014-04-11 | restate | Hank calls it messed up that culture bases women's value significantly on beauty and treats attracting men as their purpose, while boys need no makeup to look hot. | What Boys Look For in Girls 00:02:17 |
| 2025-08-03 | restate | Hank says the reluctance is not that bad in itself, but what it is a symptom of, which he can't quite name, is probably not great: a knot in culture that needs to be massaged. | Why I Actually Love My Brother 00:01:55 |
Background
| date | how | position | video |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2009-07-28 | background | John calls it weird that culture thrusts marriage on women, with men deciding for months and women answering in seconds. (playful) | Love and Romance Questions ANSWERED 00:00:55 |
| 2011-06-17 | background | Defending peeing sitting down, Hank says he is comfortable with his sexuality and not overly concerned with society's irrational cultural constructions of manliness. (playful) | Top 7 Tips for LIFE 00:03:26 |