Is adulthood a destination you arrive at?

Hank said in 2012 that growing up is a journey and the lines between life stages are imaginary. John has agreed since 2012 that adulthood is no monolithic state, and from 2017 says it is not a destination and stays full of change and growth.

Axis: adulthood is a fixed state you reach ... there is no line; you keep becoming

Positions by date: 12 records in 12 videos. The position did not change in these records.

John

date	how	position	video
2011-08-31	first on record	John tells people leaving school that the 'real world' they enter is neither more nor less real than earlier worlds, and that adulthood gets much better with time.	How to Become An Adult 00:00:17
2012-10-02	restate	John: adulthood is not a monolithic state you acquire and ride out; you will always be figuring out what to do and doing many things, and teenagers are already doing adulthood.	What To Do With Your Life 00:00:19
2015-02-24	restate	John argues high school, college and your 20s and 30s are not destiny; the course of a life is never decided at once and destiny happens only in retrospect.	Who I Was in High School 00:02:23
2017-08-29	restate	John says it turns out that adulthood is not a destination.	40 00:01:56
2018-06-26	restate	John has thought pretending to be the wise fish would make him one; you can fake your way through most of adult life, but not to enlightenment.	How's the Water? 00:01:41
2019-10-15	restate	John says that has not been his experience of adulthood: he sees the world very differently than five, ten or fifteen years ago, though an adult all along.	I'm Having a Lot of Feelings 00:02:26
2021-08-24	restate	Most importantly, adulthood turns out to be full of change: John keeps many relationships from 20 years ago, but they have dramatically changed and deepened.	It's My Birthday. I Gave Myself This Video. 00:03:06
2023-09-29	restate	John once thought life was a bullet train ending at a station called adulthood, where you wait for death; in fact adulthood is really interesting and full of change.	Like Apocalyptic Horsemen 00:03:04
2024-08-03	restate	John finds it cool that those people are discovering adulthood is not a destination where everything ends but an opportunity for more growing.	I Love Hank. (Also I'm back.) 00:02:20
2024-12-31	restate	John says his family sometimes says they are not growing old so much as continuing to grow up, and this is part of growing up.	I Just Can't Do It Anymore 00:04:46

Hank

date	how	position	video
2012-04-20	first on record	Hank says you never know when you are an adult: the lines between life stages are imaginary, and growing up, loving or having a job are journeys, not destinations.	Thoughts on Growing up 00:02:54
2017-05-26	restate	Hank finds strength in knowing his own wandering is normal, kind of beautiful and nothing to stress about; not knowing where your path goes keeps it from being boring.	Some Rough Advice for the "Real World" 00:03:24

Background

date	how	position	video
2013-01-15	background	Hank says adulthood is things being the same every day for years, and hopes the questioner never feels like a real adult. (playful, hedged)	An Evening of Awesome at Carnegie Hall 01:48:09
2017-12-08	background	To a viewer who wants to believe there's no place like home but doesn't know where home is, Hank answers: welcome to adulthood. (playful)	I Have (a little bit) HAD IT! 00:01:28