John asks Nerdfighters to tell someone they love that they love them on Esther Day (2010)
ask · status: asked again year after year (last 2026) · last event: reminder (2026-08-03) · owner: John and Hank
On the first Esther Day in 2010 John asked Nerdfighters to tell someone they love that they love them. The brothers have repeated the request on Esther Day nearly every year since, through 2026.
Part of: Esther Day: the brothers' annual videos on Esther Earl's birthday about what she chooses (2010)
Told alongside: Death of Nerdfighter Esther Earl, John's friend (2010) · The brothers' agreement never to use the L-word about each other (2010) · Hank invites viewers to donate to This Star Won't Go Out on Esther Day (2012) · The brothers ask viewers to join the annual Esther Day livestream party (2021) · John asks viewers to comment who it is hard for them to say 'I love you' to (Esther Day 2010) · John asks viewers to attend Esther's family's Esther Day event in Quincy, Massachusetts (2012)
About: Esther Day, Esther Earl
| date | event | what | video |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2010-08-02 | asked | John asks Nerdfighters to join Esther and him in telling someone they love that they love them today. | I Love Hank: Esther Day 2010 00:02:55 |
| 2011-08-03 | reminder | Hank repeats the Esther Day ask: tell the people you love that you love them so that they know. | I Love My Brother 00:01:56 |
| 2012-07-31 | reminder | John announces that Friday is Esther Day, honoring Esther, who inspired much of The Fault in Our Stars and Nerdfighteria, by telling people we love that we love them. | Nerd Olympics 00:02:03 |
| 2012-08-03 | reminder | Hank repeats the Esther Day ask: say 'I love you' to people you don't usually say it to, and don't assume they know how you feel. | I Don't Understand My Life 00:03:06 |
| 2013-08-03 | reminder | The description repeats the Esther Day ask: tell someone you love them today, even if it is hard. | Esther Day 2013 video description |
| 2014-08-03 | reminder | Hank asks viewers to take time on Esther Day to say 'I love you' to people they don't normally say it to. | Happy Esther Day! 00:01:15 |
| 2015-08-03 | reminder | John restates Esther Day's call: say 'I love you' to family and friends, especially when it's hard. | I Love You, Hank. Esther Day 2015 00:00:27 |
| 2016-08-03 | reminder | The description says Esther Earl, a Nerdfighter who died in 2010 at 16, asked that her birthday be a day for saying "I love you" to people you love but don't tell enough. | Lives Made of Love - Esther Day 2016 video description |
| 2017-08-03 | reminder | John hopes viewers will take a moment on Esther Day to tell people in their lives that they love them, especially if it is hard to do. | HAPPY ESTHER DAY!!! 00:00:57 |
| 2018-08-03 | reminder | Hank marks Esther Day, a day in the community, and ideally the world, to celebrate non-romantic love by telling the people you love that you love them, even if awkward. | How Do Adults Make Friends? 00:00:00 |
| 2019-08-02 | reminder | Hank notes Esther Day is tomorrow and tells everyone to get ready to tell the people they love that they love them. | The Cutest Octopus 00:03:37 |
| 2019-08-03 | reminder | Hank asks everyone else, first-timers or ten-year veterans, to text, email, call or write a letter telling people who probably know it that they love them; they'll love hearing it. | I Love John: Esther Day 2019 00:03:25 |
| 2020-08-03 | reminder | John hopes viewers will take a moment to tell friends and family that they love them and are grateful for their love. | you're bundled up now? wait till you get older. 00:03:42 |
| 2021-08-03 | reminder | John hopes viewers take a moment today to acknowledge the love in their lives, especially the kinds that are hard to say out loud. | I L*** Hank 00:02:55 |
| 2022-08-03 | reminder | Hank says anything new is hard the first time, and outside one's experience still hard the fifth, but after about 12 Esther Days it is easier, which is a good gift. | Why is it So Hard to Say 'I Love You'? 00:02:40 |
| 2023-08-03 | reminder | John encourages viewers to say 'I love you' to the people they love, especially when it's hard. | I love you, Hank. Happy Esther Day. 00:03:16 |
| 2024-08-03 | reminder | John hopes viewers who have a moment today will tell someone that they love them, in Esther's honor. | I Love Hank. (Also I'm back.) 00:00:40 |
| 2025-08-03 | reminder | Hank explains Esther Day: on her birthday, an annual celebration of Esther Earl's life, which she asked to be a celebration not of romantic love but of platonic love. | Why I Actually Love My Brother 00:03:03 |
| 2026-08-03 | reminder | John hopes viewers will overcome the awkwardness of saying 'I love you' and let people in their lives know they love them. | Esther Day 2026: Some Thoughts on Loss 00:04:08 |
What is said about it
6 statements, by date (the events above are the turns of the thread; these are the details).
- 2010-08-02 · I Love Hank: Esther Day 2010 — ask: The description points to Esther's own vlog and asks viewers to wish her a happy birthday and to make someone they love aware of that love today. — video description
- 2012-07-31 · Nerd Olympics — John loves Esther Day and is grateful to Esther for the gift of making people say 'I love you' to each other. — 00:02:32
- 2014-08-03 · Happy Esther Day! — ask: Hank asks viewers to take time today to say 'I love you' to people they don't normally say it to: it's a good thing to do, and it's what Esther wants. — 00:01:09
- 2016-08-03 · Lives Made of Love - Esther Day 2016 — Hank says Esther Day, August 3, celebrates kinds of love society is less good at celebrating, though they hold society together. (hedged) — 00:02:03
- 2020-08-03 · you're bundled up now? wait till you get older. — John says Esther was right that the constant is love: much from 2010 feels dated now, but not Esther Day. — 00:03:35
- 2025-08-03 · Why I Actually Love My Brother — Hank says saying 'I love you' to his brother is not physically difficult but not natural: even after all these years of Esther Days, the words feel like they belong somewhere else. — 00:00:00